This night was no different from any other, except maybe there were about ten of us from the Memphis Lair all out.  I’ve been tending to have a few drinks lately while I’m out. Not for any other reason than I like to tie one on after a long week.. This night was no different.

When I go out drinking I’m pretty responsible and don’t usually get too inebriated. Hey there’s nothing wrong with tying one on as long as you are responsible enough to know if you have to drive or not. I realize that most PUA “gurus” tell you drinking is bad and all, but maybe they have self control problems. My only problem is usually insanity and sometimes drinking is the cure.

Anyway today’s blog is not about me and any problems I might have. If you’ve ever read the SteveO blog you probably have come to your own conclusions about me. I’m cool with that. Just to give you an idea how nuts I am: right now I’m writing this blog on my IPhone notes with QWERTY key pad. A whole blog on IPhone, now that’s nuts.

Like I was saying before I went off on my little tirade this blog entry is about someone else’s troubles. So we were out and about Beale and I was doing my thing. I ran some pretty freaking great game this night. It wasn’t super target rich but good enough. I had ran into these three girls and had some good attraction going every time I came across them. My game on Beale usually consists of moving from set to set. If you never been to Beale its a street with bars on either side for a few city blocks. Its closed to cars so lots of people chill in the street. My social proof is built by going from set to set. By the end of the night usually I have spoken, kissed, danced and number closed many sets. Girls see that and want to know who you are. They seek you out. Who is that guy?

A bunch of us were walking heading back to the Flying Saucer. I have this incredible game with hired guns too. Some of my friends in the lair don’t understand it. They call it the neg stack! I basically stack on negs until the hired help are about to cry and are on the verge of murdering. Then, with precise ninja like calibration, I get them to do something nice and show admiration like their the best. They don’t know what to think, but I can tell you I make a he’ll of an impression.

On our way to the Saucer I ran into three girls I’ve already opened earlier. Uh-oh the one in the middle is so drunk she needs help walking. See I told you I’d get to someone else’s problems. So me being me  I decided to see if they could use a helping hand. Now most alleged PUA’s will neg or think maybe this is a good time to bust them out. A neg or bust is fun in the right situation but I believe when someone is hurting or in danger a true ALPHA steps up and takes responsibility.

Like I said I asked if she was all right, but I could see the apprehension in her friends. I don’t think they recognized me from earlier. I wanted them to feel safe while at the same time watching over them so that they were safe. I hung back but kept an eye on them.

As they walked and I walked a safe distance behind so as not to be threatening I noticed there was an “unsavory character” also walking along with them, but this guy was walking in the shadows. Memphis is not exactly a sleepy town and has some regular nasty crimes perpetrated.. Well nothing was going to happen to these girls, not on my watch anyway. I decided by this time as we passed the Saucer I would catch up and let them know I was going to offer a helping hand. The girls had also noticed bad Joe Shadows following them and I could see them keep looking back. I told them I just wanted to help them get their friend home safe. Funny thing was some of my friends cut out to head into the Saucer. Makes me wonder just what inspires others to call themselves ALPHA?

By this time the girls figured SteveO’s help was needed and accepted it. I really wanted them to be comfortable so I walked behind them until they got to the car garage. I convinced the one girl to get the car while I waited and held up the drunk chick with friend number two. I was pleasantly surprised when Chase walked Joe Shadows away. I guess the guy got the point and left.

At this point friend two was feeling like she was OK holding up drunk girl. No problem there, until she fell flat on her face. I ended up having to pick her up and carry her to the car. Of course drunk girl fucked herself up pretty bad and knocked herself unconscious. Well the cops showed up just as we got her into car. My job was done.

The chick who got the car was very grateful and really didn’t know how to thank me. I told her that sometimes knowing the world is a better place because of something I’ve done is all the thanks I needed. I didn’t wait for a response, I simply walked off.

It was a fucked up night. After we all went out to have a real Philly cheese steak, whizin, me and another lair member got to talking about what had transpired. To me doing the right thing is the only way an ALPHA does things. Being a PUA does not mean being an asshole. I guess my views are not shared with everybody and kind of surprised me. I realize there are rapists and killers out there like Joe Shadows, but I was amazed when my fellow lair member said that he wouldn’t have done it. He said “nice guys finish last.”

I have to admit that I agree when I was a nice guy to the ladies I did finish last always. My problem though comes from  was what I did nice or was it taking responsibility for our surrounding’s and doing what was right? I believe it was the right thing to do and even though it was a nice thing it was more importantly the right thing to do.

When the situation was actually playing out in real time a good friend wanted to leave them. I don’t believe he did it with malice, but I also wonder where some of our own humanity goes when faced with a challenge. Are we so aloof that we fail to stop and realize we all have a choice to make. Sometimes those choices might interfere with good times. Regardless we must always stop and do right even if that right might make us out to seem like the nice guy.

I’ve read a lot of pick up material and met a lot of PUA’s and lately there seems to be this belief that an ALPHA male had to be Jonny Asshole. As you might know I am well known on a research forum and work for a Beverly Hills company that sells pheromones. I remember reading a post one day about what an ALPHA male was supposed to be like. I was thinking to myself how wrong the guy was. He was so off it was ridiculous! Everything that I believe what an ALPHA male should stand for this guy was saying the exact opposite.

I joined the PUA community because I was needy and as such needed a life lesson. I realized that I was a nice guy for the wrong reasons. Just like my friend was telling me in the Philly cheese  steak place “I only do something nice if I’m going to get something out of it.” Yup that was me well over a couple of years ago before my life transformation. I used to be the nice guy there to listen and be a friend to all the girls. I fooled myself into believing that being that nice guy would get me laid. Truth of the matter is maybe I started being nice cause I truly believed that’s what you had to do. Maybe my intentions turned wrong after years of loneliness, but when I learned pick up my breakthrough came when I realized what ALPHA stood for.

ALPHA is not a defined being and certainly I am not the defining word on it. I can tell you this though, an ALPHA creates his reality. He is identified through his being. He is not a bully, nor a pushover. He does the right thing regardless if it puts him into that nice guy category. He doesnt do nice to get paid back, he does it because it is the right thing to do!

Have we come along as PUA’s to become the same person we were when we were being nice to get something? Ask yourself why you became a PUA? Was it to seduce women or was there something deeper inside you longing to set itself free? Ask yourself: am I an ALPHA male?