Is Social Media Killing My Social Skills?

While I still make it out into the real world quite often, more so than what I am going to presume many of you dear readers, I do find that its so much easier to actually sit and watch twitter or facebook than it is to reach out and make a connection. As many of you, if not all of you, know that I have practiced social dynamic life artistry skills to help me seduce the world. While many younger guys might only see this as an application to seduce women, learning these skills offers so much more. The ability to understand the human engagement as an opportunity to delve into the psyche is an amazing journey of all our senses and furthers communications. Having the knowledge is nothing less than what my good friend Dan says; “A super power.” Yes Dan it is indeed.

I’ve been very successful at honing in on my unique rapport abilities and conditioning myself to engage in every opportunity to get out of the house and socialize. I was never a shy person, except maybe in my early childhood days, but as Milton Ericson so eloquently put it, shyness is a defensive mechanism to protect us from the big-bad-wolf, AKA the world. Perhaps in childhood I was simply protecting myself form the inequities of the tyranny of evil men. After I learned that it was I who held all the cards to the world I not only got out of my shell but I bloomed into a social beast.

This leads me to about a couple of weeks ago. I met a really sweet babe who I have a lot in common with. We have been playing a game for a while and it was so easy for me to do that thing that I do. It wasn’t about getting facebook info or her number as its second nature to do so. What I found kind of weird this time around was, even knowing full-well she wanted for me to call her (She insisted I take her number) it was still easier for me to contact her on facebook. Then came the texting and just this past week I finally called her. I knew she wanted to talk and never before has it been an issue for me to call anyone before, and I do mean never before. It’s like all of a sudden its just gotten easier to not communicate with people face to face and rather chat or post on their wall. This way there really can be no consequences to our actions as really even though they are our words they are unattached to who we really are.