This is a response to a post on PheroTalk Forum that I do not feel appropriate, for personal reasons, posting on the actual forum
You may read the entire thread here: : Why would someone do this? Am I bad person?

My reply, is a direct reply to mark-in-dallas’ post quoted below:

Darlin, I almost called Mara. I don’t think they hate me over there at this point, but I don’t know how much good it would have done either. She knows I’m here and knows that I’ve stayed neutral in the war, but I really don’t have any weight over there either.

Mara is an awesome lady though, and you can tell her I said so!

I’ve heard that as well Mark:). She sounds pretty cool and I wanted to check out the product there: LovePotionPerfume. I was saddened when I got banned from her site for no reason. I mean, I didn’t even get a chance to post!

I thought it would be best to read up, just like I did on PheromoneTalk and every other forum I belong to, when I joined. I didn’t spoof my IP and used an email address that I clearly own so I wasn’t trying to hide anything. I certainly didn’t go there to try and rub someones nerves raw, like the thread I am responding to has broken down into.

When I got banned It didn’t surprise me one bit! People talk a great game about love and respecting one another and all the while they are secretly talking and plotting behind each others back and I certainly do NOT mean this happens only at one forum or the other. I was pissed off that someone would actually go to those lengths to watch who registers. All the posts and threads about lying and waiting to strike with masked IP’s, at LovePotionPerfume, well that did surprise me. I always have heard how loving, accommodating and well wishing everyone one is there. Please understand that in no way is this saying that it only happens over there. I mean really, just read the SteveO put the S back into Sexi… thread at PheromoneTalk and it certainly opens up eyes to the bad in some peoples hearts. Needless to say, yeah but I’m saying it anyway, that I was shocked and appalled at the ill-intent spewed at PheromoneTalk as well. I was pretty sure that I understood the rules at PheromoneTalk since I was always told to treat it like a party atmosphere. If it didn’t go at a party, it didn’t go there either. LOL, I’m not sure where some people go to party, but please don’t invite me if that’s the idea of a party.

When I mentioned the Laws Of Attraction (LOA) in a thread someone told me in private that they were told I didn’t know what I was talking about. Correct me if I’m wrong; what you think about and do most is EXACTLY what you attract into your life. If you think about, write about, plot about it, all the while doing the very same thing; you get exactly that back. Am I innocent and perfect? No, but at least I do not redefine the very meaning of what I say I believe in to suite the flavor of the day.

With that said, I could also understand why some people wanting to go off and start their own little private forum. I really hope it is a place that, in the Hosts own words:

please be comfortable posting anything as you would like to, with only RESPECT to any and all involved.

I wish them well. I do hope that I can myself join anonymously and post about those pheromone products I am currently unable to without bias. This leads me into my next point.

There seems to be a whole lot of conflicting information, or misinformation spreading. The more I read, the more I have to question the validity of MANY claims. All the marketing hype, all the underhanded deeds, all the hate-fueled words of anger and just pure evil is just bewildering to me. Michael Harris is talking about having to escape the USA, land of capitalism and apparently without room for pheromone research companies. I just don’t understand how other pheromone companies survive! He says innovation is a serious risk due to all the frivolous lawsuits, but this goes right back to my above paragraph on LOA. Clearly a company focusing all their efforts on a positive impact, of making the world a better place would have a place in this world. I don’t get it! I’m sure a man, that many would strive to elevate themselves just to get to his level, will be able to come up with a way to do business wherever he damn well pleases without fear of reprisal.

I guess in this world we live in though there are just some evil doers. I even remember hearing at least a few people I know who said my post about the tragic passing of David Carridine was about them. Umm hello, if you believed it was about you, than you must have a very poor image of yourself or maybe it is you… Let me ease their minds: I was sad to hear about the “suicide death” of a childhood hero. There are so many influences of evil coming from every side its mind boggling. To think a man who seemed like he had life in the palm of his hand, without any known provocation or history of mental problems would one day, out of the blue, up and end his life. Very sad indeed. I urge those who still believe it is about them to seek emergency psychiatric help now.

Unfortunately I’ve learned there are way to many people being deceitful and spreading viscous rumors and the worse part about it: it all seems like its based on making a buck! When people don’t care who they hurt, how many lies they spread, who gets caught in the cross fire (mob mentality) it just goes to show you the level people will sink to. Look what Michael Harris said what someone did to Jasmin’s kids. That is just pathetic! I am a firm believer in the Golden Rule: Due onto others as you would have them due onto you.

Although I could never understand how it is to appreciate a mothers love for her children (I have personally witnessed Jasmin’s love for her children and there is not a question in my mind that she is an amazing mother) I also have experienced personal attacks and against my family, but I do NOT accept the victim mentality. I refuse to allow a horrible situation to dictate my life. My situation is VERY different from Jasmin’s though as hers revolve around her kids. My love and well wishes goes out to Jasmin, but more importantly her children. I was blessed to spend many hours with that baby girl and boy and they are just loved, loved, loved and as such are loving, loving, loving. With an ongoing investigation I will not say more, but I will close this paragraph out with a silent prayer to the good Lord that her issues are resolved and whomever the guilty is that they are punished accordingly.

Well its 3:34 A.M. and I’m just blabbering about all this, but jeez, we have all this fighting and paranoia going on against so many companies. It’s hard to fathom an entire industry made out of just downright bad people with just a very select couple that are trying to do the right thing, and even those are now getting low down and dirty. Customers are actually drawing lines in the sand claiming loyalty to one company over another, but the really scary thing is, since when is a company more important than the human element? Are we all getting dragged into a big shit storm of hatred being perpetrated by an evil manipulative hack, whose identity is hidden that is looking to destroy lives–all over greed? Scary to fathom an idea as such!

I’ve been repeatedly told how this guy and that guy are just horrible and because of my loyalty to APR perhaps I’ve been completely blinded as well. Now that’s not to say it isn’t the truth, but isn’t it my responsibility to find out that truth? I’ve always believed there are three sides to every story: Your side, His side, and somewhere in between the TRUTH. Please now, I can just hear those same evil doers in the world using this to stir up trouble. Oh junkyfungus is saying APR are liars. That is not what I am saying at all. I am using APR as an example, because I work there, but because I work there I must also identify it as my fierce loyalty to the point of a fault that I put a company and those who work along with me and the very clients as truth without even investigating for myself where the truth lies. It is a responsibility, especially when loyalty is involved, that I do seek out the truth for myself. I’m certain that I would find truth and though I firmly believe it will sway towards those I trust, it is the correct thing to do. I’m talking about following that very Law of Attraction myself and giving all their due benefit.

I don’t really know someone is selling something they shouldn’t be, or that this molecule isn’t what they say it is. I am sure there are countless cries across the divide saying exactly the same thing about the other side. This all brings me right back to mark-in-dallas’ post about Mara being a good person. I am sure Mara is a great person and her products look magical, I only wish I was afforded an opportunity to read the forum as anyone else would have been. Use your time wisely my friends, be happy and in the words of Chuck-D: don’t believe the hype.

The old Tom Petty song…anyone remember? I know its late and perhaps I’m tripping on Shrooms, but I’m replacing the word love with nail clippers. It isn’t really funny because its 3:41 A.M. and I just got back from a night at the Flying Saucer with my favorite wingman and the only thing I can think of when I get home is: My favorite nail clippers which I misplaced.

I’ve had these nail clippers for MANY years and a good pair is hard to find. These suckers cut just perfect and you don’t even need a Emory board afterward. I mean who can truly say they don’t absolutely love a good pair of nail clippers and have hung on that pair like a wife? It’s late so good night and I love you all. Each and every one of you for whatever thats worth, but as long as we are clear, just not as much as I love my Basset nail clippers. Made in the USA<3<3<3<3<3<3

I had a revelation the other day and it will make you mad. It’s not the type of blog post today that is racist, political, religious or anything else that would typically make so many normal people angry when they read it. It affects us all and I know that most of my readers are going to disagree with what I have to say. In fact it’s the beauty of the subject I speak of and it gets right down to our core identity and in doing so it tears us apart inside leaving a gaping hole exposed for everyone else to see.

When we are weakened by the simple truth then the adage that the truth never hurts must in turn be a lie, or at least in this instance. When I first thought of my epiphany the other day it made me furious. I argued the thought to myself and repeated over and over in my head looking for a way out. Hoping among hopes I was wrong and this time I really wanted to be wrong. If you know me you know I like to play devils advocate and argue every conceivable avenue even when I know it is utterly useless to do so and it goes against everything I stand for. Not today, not then, not ever have I been able to come up with such an idea that my very existence as a human has been challenged. Everything I stand for and believe in is topsy-turvy now and yet somehow I believe I am a better man for it.

We all experience rejection and as an aspiring Pick Up Artist we come to value it as a learning curve, or as we call it in the industry “calibration.” We need to calibrate our actions, words, whatever so that we may overcome the obstacle that is put forth and push the interaction forward. It’s a part of every aspect of life.

What if we were using excuses like she didn’t like me because I’m short, fat, balding, smelly as ways to compensate for the real issue that she didn’t like us because we are unlikable to her. These real issues could be race, religious, personality, things we hold as core parts of our identity. Therefore the issue is made up to cover our own insecurities with our own ego. We can overcome being fat by blaming it on the weight and therefore having an internal mechanism that compensate the inadequacy’s and learning to cope with that aspect.

In turn we might even create an issue like weight every time someone wants to just be friends because it would be easier to undertake to emotional damage and isolate those feelings and learn to repress those emotions over time, after time, after time rather than deal with something larger than say an actual character defect. So wouldn’t it be easier to say I’m fat and I can get over that because I know I’m a great guy and she should like me for who I am, putting forth the blame back onto her. While at the same time using that weight defect as a compensating flaw that with time can be emotionally blocked from ireperable damage all the while taking the actual defect, a flaw in ones personality or character, that which is emotionally more damaging to our ego. Therefore we chose the easier and less damaging path.

In actuality it becomes evident that by using a defect that we can overcome we “choose” to become that defect to compensate for the actual flaw, whatever it might be, because one is less painful than the other. If this is the case, and I do believe it to be, I might eat unhealthy because I am creating a persona that is less emotionally damaging to my ego than say a character defect that I don’t have control over like the look of my face.

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