I’ve been thinking about writing but I do so much of it at my job, that I sometimes just don’t have the ambition to blog anything. I’ve changed over the last year and now I do quite a few things differently then I used to. I have decided to do some serious gaming though, so that should add a bit of flair to the diary of a junky. It infects my life and sends me into bliss so that I may not escape. Ahh life is tremendously good right now for me. I am in such a good place with myself.
May 182010
Sorry for the slight delay, I have lots of projects all happening at once
This part we cover: The value of EGO and being selfish. Words and actions that make us very much who we are and how to successfully navigate through life. We all have advantages and disadvantages in our lives. Some are born with tremendous opportunity in a particular area, but that does not negate the value of someone not born with that particular opportunity. Having an EGO is good and needed.
How does the effects of addiction like heroin, alcohol, smoking change our brain chemistry? We learn a valuable lesson from Shiva how we are all simply human with vulnerabilities and as such will make mistakes. Understanding this allows us to comprehend what guilt is, and as such the ability to forgive ourselves and make lasting change. This powerful segment shows awakens an inner sense of just who we are and how we interact with others by allowing us to see not just the world, but the lens we see the world through.
In this segment of the Harnessing Inner Game Interview with Shiva of www.SGMS.info we discuss how your conscious and subconscious mind is at war with itself. We learn how to forgive ourselves and the impact that denial has on us. Discover the truth about your instincts as a human and how our actions, regardless of our intentions can do damage to others.
This part of the interview Shiva starts to tie together his Monkey Brain theories, ideas on the functions of guilt and how we interact socially.
This is part 1 of a very large INTENSE interview I did with Shiva of www.SGMS.info. I consider Shiva my Inner Game Guru, as a lifelong student of Life Artistry. I personally like to call my personal development Life Artistry rather than Pick Up Artist as it is a limiting tag. Life Artistry covers all of life’s lessons and as a student of the world I encourage you to never limit yourself in one direction.
In this, part 1, section we learn of Shiva’s upbringing and how he came to realize he was seeking validation, acceptance and social proof. Shiva demonstrates that ultimately seeking validation from outside sources can be damaging to ones inner game.
The world has so many sides and beliefs it has become crucial to my development to embrace all of what it has to offer. Perhaps the best explanation I can give of my view of the world would be for you, my dear friend, to read and study the Tao Te Ching. Perhaps the most brilliant take on life ever recorded.
My hope is that you can learn from this interview series and gain a better understanding of your life and the lives of those around you. Harnessing Your Inner Game is not intended to be medical advice, it is simply your average mans journey of self discovery. Please enjoy and live your life happy in the now moment.
Apr 102008
I had a revelation the other day and it will make you mad. It’s not the type of blog post today that is racist, political, religious or anything else that would typically make so many normal people angry when they read it. It affects us all and I know that most of my readers are going to disagree with what I have to say. In fact it’s the beauty of the subject I speak of and it gets right down to our core identity and in doing so it tears us apart inside leaving a gaping hole exposed for everyone else to see.
When we are weakened by the simple truth then the adage that the truth never hurts must in turn be a lie, or at least in this instance. When I first thought of my epiphany the other day it made me furious. I argued the thought to myself and repeated over and over in my head looking for a way out. Hoping among hopes I was wrong and this time I really wanted to be wrong. If you know me you know I like to play devils advocate and argue every conceivable avenue even when I know it is utterly useless to do so and it goes against everything I stand for. Not today, not then, not ever have I been able to come up with such an idea that my very existence as a human has been challenged. Everything I stand for and believe in is topsy-turvy now and yet somehow I believe I am a better man for it.
We all experience rejection and as an aspiring Pick Up Artist we come to value it as a learning curve, or as we call it in the industry “calibration.” We need to calibrate our actions, words, whatever so that we may overcome the obstacle that is put forth and push the interaction forward. It’s a part of every aspect of life.
What if we were using excuses like she didn’t like me because I’m short, fat, balding, smelly as ways to compensate for the real issue that she didn’t like us because we are unlikable to her. These real issues could be race, religious, personality, things we hold as core parts of our identity. Therefore the issue is made up to cover our own insecurities with our own ego. We can overcome being fat by blaming it on the weight and therefore having an internal mechanism that compensate the inadequacy’s and learning to cope with that aspect.
In turn we might even create an issue like weight every time someone wants to just be friends because it would be easier to undertake to emotional damage and isolate those feelings and learn to repress those emotions over time, after time, after time rather than deal with something larger than say an actual character defect. So wouldn’t it be easier to say I’m fat and I can get over that because I know I’m a great guy and she should like me for who I am, putting forth the blame back onto her. While at the same time using that weight defect as a compensating flaw that with time can be emotionally blocked from ireperable damage all the while taking the actual defect, a flaw in ones personality or character, that which is emotionally more damaging to our ego. Therefore we chose the easier and less damaging path.
In actuality it becomes evident that by using a defect that we can overcome we “choose” to become that defect to compensate for the actual flaw, whatever it might be, because one is less painful than the other. If this is the case, and I do believe it to be, I might eat unhealthy because I am creating a persona that is less emotionally damaging to my ego than say a character defect that I don’t have control over like the look of my face.
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